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MeganBolden asked on 3/2/2010 12:26:11 PM Report this post
i startede my period yesterday..March 1, 2010... i really want a baby when would be tha best time to have sex?? we have been trying for a year and still nothing..HELP ME PLEASE:)

Moriah0226 said on 3/2/2010 12:45:02 PM Report this post
I would suggest to get a BBT Thermomater at your local drug store. (Cost about $7.00). First day after your period taking your tempt either orally or vaginally first thing in the morning before you get out of bed. Only move your arm to grab your thermometer. You will need to do this every morning. You will then start to seen a pattarn. You will ovulate when your temp goes up above the last 6 temps and stay high. You can also use OPK's (Ovulation Predication Kit)found online and at your local drugstore. You can begin using them around CD10 (Cycle Day 10)(10 days after your period) until you get a positive. Below are some links to a couple website that will help you get started and give you more information. You will need to also print off a BBT Chart to record your temps on or you can use the one found on this site. Just click on Fertility Chart under the Getting Pregant Tab at the bottom of the page.

Links:

http://www.babiesonline.com/articles/ttc/introduction-to-trying-to-conceive-ttc.asp

http://www.womenshealth.gov/pregnancy/before-you-get-pregnant/trying-to-conceive.cfm

http://www.medicinenet.com/trying_to_conceive/article.htm

I hope this helps. You can also click on the links at the bottom of the page under Getting Pregant Tab and there is a lot of information there as well. Good Luck and Baby Dust to you!

MeganBolden said on 3/2/2010 2:08:08 PM Report this post
That you i just dont know if i can take my temp every morning but if it will help me concive i will try.. I have thought about getting the test i jus wasnt to sure if they really work.. thank you for your help..

Agray81 said on 3/2/2010 8:58:41 PM Report this post
Wait a week then do it every other day for the rest of the month. If you ovulate, you are very likely to get pregnant. Don't get up the second you are done. Lay there for at least 30 minutes. It also helps to elevate your help. If you can, just go to bed after.

Can you check your CM? Mine totally gets clear & stretchy when I ovulate (& abundant)! GL!

heatherohmy said on 3/2/2010 9:42:03 PM Report this post
My best advice is track your cycles if you don't already that way you can know your cycle length, that will help you determine around when you should ovulate and when your next scheduled AF should be.
Best of luck to you and many blessings!

Heather

MeganBolden said on 3/3/2010 10:34:35 AM Report this post
thank yall!! i keep track of my periods but they are so weird.. for exp..in jan i started on tha 27 and lasted five days.. ok in feb i did not start and got all happy then on march 1 i started again.. so would i jus count tha days in between jan and march?? im all new to this..it is very confusing...if yall know any other tips or anything i would love that :)

Shueywish said on 3/3/2010 12:25:06 PM Report this post
My advise would be to stop trying so hard. My husband and I tried and tried and tried and nothing. As soon as we just relaxed and did it when we felt like it it happened. I never really understood the whole idea around charting etc. Although we haven't had a problem conceiving so I might have gone to that if it were to be a problem but for me if just felt like too much pressure. Also, I know it's hard not to want to keep it in all night but for me that only caused me constant UTI infections so I'd hold it in for a bit and then let it out.
Thats my advice. Good luck to you though. I hope you get your positive soon.

Shueywish said on 3/3/2010 12:29:13 PM Report this post
PS I hope I didn't sound like too much of a downer. I meant my advice in the best possible way. I just sometimes can't wrap my head around the whole idea of charting but like I said we didn't have a problem conceiving so we never needed to resort to that. I wish all the girls luck that are trying to get pregnant. Just relax and let it happen. God will allow it to happen when it's supposed to. Good Luck!

HollyJolly83 said on 3/3/2010 3:40:36 PM Report this post
Relax and you'll get pregnant... yeah, there's a new idea! Anyways....for people who don't have trouble concieving and just relaxing, things are a breeze. For those who have dealt with Cervical Cancer, PCOS, being raped, medical issues etc....."relaxing" is the least of the problem... I can't believe you made that post and I'm sure there are many others who feel the same way.......

None the less...if you are heartfully TTC, I agree that BBT charting, checking your CM daily, OPK's etc are the best way to go =-) I pray that you get your BFP soon....stress does affect your ability to concieve but just relaxing isn't the root of the problem and it ain't gonna cut it sorry =-(

HollyJolly83 said on 3/3/2010 3:42:54 PM Report this post
Wow...didn't I sound like B*#^H....? Sorry, comments like that tick me off plus AF is due tomorrow and I'm sure you all can understand =-)

Shueywish said on 3/4/2010 8:42:27 AM Report this post
I'm truly sorry if I offended anyone. That wasn't my intention at all. My road to conceiving hasn't been an easy one either. I've gone through a miscarriage and finding out the I'm built a little different didn't make things easier. The advice I gave came from my friends and family and doctors that helped me through my rough times.

Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone.

ashstrom said on 3/4/2010 9:11:50 AM Report this post
It's ok Shueywish....it's just that people that have no problem ttc always say, "just relax and it will happen." All my family and friends tell me that. But when you've been ttc for a year or more it's not a matter of relaxing and us hormonal women will tell you! HAHA! I have broke down and yelled at my poor cousin when she told me to relax. There's just more to it and we know that you don't mean it offensively.


Shueywish said on 3/4/2010 9:24:14 AM Report this post
Thanks Ashstrom for your post. I was in tears when I read the previous post and I really didn't mean any harm by what I wrote. Rereading it now I realize I could have worded things a little differently though. I do hope that all that are trying to conceive get your positives soon. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that some of you women have gone through ttc for a year or more. I admire your strength to keep on trying. Best of luck to all of you. Maybe in future I'll keep my opinions to myself so I don't end up hurting anyone again.
Take Care

MeganBolden said on 3/4/2010 10:41:06 AM Report this post
thank all yall for the help.. and yes i have always heard to relax i really think thats how i had my last child.i was tryin and tryin and when i gave up i got prego.. this time for sum reason i jus cant give up.. i have baby on tha brain..lol but im really tryin to relax..and thank all of yall

Cinnamon said on 3/4/2010 4:40:48 PM Report this post
I have no hard feelings towards anyone personally, but...

Biology rules with NO exceptions (unless you're the Virgin Mary) - healthy egg must be released - healthy sperm must be there during the fertle period to get to the egg, and the growth must be healthy and normal. Conception happens in no other way unless its IVF. Even IUI requires this process.

Relaxing never has anything to do with it. If you are ACTIVELY ttc, you need to know when you are likely to O and therefore it requires some attention on our to our bodies and the calendar, and often doing the deed when we're tired and not in the mood b/c if you don't do it then, another month (or more if you have a long cycle) goes by with a lesser chance of success or no chance at all.

If you are only PASSIVELY ttc, then you can relax all you want, have sex whenever the mood strikes you, and what happens happens (but I can bet that if you've gone from active ttc to passively ttc, somewhere in your mind, you know when you'd be ovulating - no one goes through actively ttc to suddenly having no idea where in the cycle you are).

I wish the webmaster would put a flashy heading across the top or add it after the FertilityGal heading - "Relaxing has nothing to do with it!"

traydogg79 said on 3/4/2010 9:32:28 PM Report this post
AMEN SISTA LOL ;)

sunny207 said on 3/5/2010 7:53:39 AM Report this post
My experience has been the same ladies. We tried for 7 months to relax and have fun and got zero results. Then I got Taking Charge of Your Fertility and dusted off the old thermometer - I did not even buy a new BBT one to be honest. I regliously temped every morning at 5:30 AM and BAM a BFP the following cycle. I got a MC that cycle but went on to get a BFP two months later. Turns out that that our timing was way off and I did not ovulate every cycle like I always thought I did. This all led to a better understanding of my body and a great respect for the complexity of the reproductive system. I still amazes me that it ever happens at all given all the factors at play! Moriah is dead on - educate yourself, embrace the science, find your pattern and your chances of conceiving will increase. Good luck to everyone.

MeganBolden said on 3/18/2010 12:33:17 PM Report this post
ok well now im really really confused and need help..well i had my period MArch 1st thru 5th ok well two days ago i started bleeding when i pee the day it started was wen i was suppose to be ferlitale..is there sumthing wrong wit me?

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